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The challenge with the word “god”.

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I was having a conversation with a client today. The word “god” came up.

Some of us are challenged by the usage of the word god. It can bring up many neuro-associations in our unconscious mind, depending on our conditioning. A parallel: Some people hear the word “Budweiser” and think “yum” or see an icy cold mug in their mind and get thirsty. When I hear “Budweiser” I automatically smell a college party and a bunch of kids puking.  It’s just an association. It’s just a word.

When it comes to the word “god”, I think of it this way:

God is just a word for the unknowable. Since we’re human, we try to understand everything as a human (i.e. anthropomorphize). It’s why many dog owners make the continual mistake of understanding their dog through a human projection, which is not helpful to the dog.

A dog is just a dog. The unknowable is just the unknowable. “God” is just “dog” spelled backwards. They are just words for something to experience personally.

A reminder that we project a human model on most things is a favorite quote by the writer Anaïs Nin:

We see people and things not as they are, but as we are.


Valentine’s Day is tomorrow and the truth is that an intimate relationship with one mate can be the most rewarding AND most challenging area of life. Some people are dreaming of finding that love of their life. Some have it and want to make it richer. And others may have silently given up.

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Tony and his wife had a Question and Answer video call with people around the world on Wednesday. Couples and individuals got to ask the tough question like:

  • “How do you rekindle the passion when it’s gone?”
  • “What do I do when it’s my lovely wife that fired me from my job?”
  • “How do I find the person that’s right for me?”
  • and many more in this 1 hour video session

Tony, in his usual style, cuts right through to the truth. Sage and he have been married 16 happy years and they also have those moments where emotions run high. He’s learned a lot about what to do, and what not to do, after diving into marriage at 24 and instantly becoming a father to a 17 year old.

Those of you familiar with my work will hear the influence of David Deida and understanding the polarity of masculine and feminine energy. There are also many other useful distinctions you can apply today. They lay out some practical tips for single people looking for the one and to the several couples that want to deepen what they have together.

Go beyond the marketed consumer version of Valentine’s Day, which tells you spending money on external things is what creates happiness, and instead deepen your understanding of your mate, or potential mate, in a way that actually causes love to flourish.




In my last article, I mentioned that Pete Carroll, coach of the Super Bowl Champion Seattle Seahawks uses mindfulness with his team. It’s a modern revolution in human potential that’s 2500 years old.

Cover_Dec2014_500pxThough Carroll doesn’t have his players practice meditation specifically, he does use the principals of mindfulness, of really practicing being fully in the current moment, so they can access their greatness even under the highest stress. One example in the article recounts how during a practice, fans are making tremendous noise and a task force of Marines flies in by helicopter, drops into the lake near by the field, and stages an attack on the training camp.

What we learn from this is that mindfulness is NOT finding yet another escape to get some peace. It’s about CREATING inner peace that persists even in the toughest situations. It’s presence for real life, not just for monks or people that “can’t take it.” I’ve found personally that my mindfulness training allows me to be the eye of the storm. It’s crucial to leadership!

As they say in the article, the “control-freak” coaches just don’t get this kind of training. It scares many old world business leaders that rely on their people staying in fear so they are more controllable. But, we don’t want sheep. We want Peaceful Warriors. Notice if the control-freak in your mind is intimidated by letting your inner spirit start to run the show.

Many people asked me for a follow-up so they could read more about coach Carroll and how he’s transforming football. Click the photo of the magazine cover to learn more about “mindful” magazine’s December 2014 issue. Unfortunately, it doesn’t look like they have the article online. You’ll need to find the issue at a bookstore or order it.

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Anderson Cooper did an investigative segment on “Mindfulness” this last Sunday on 60 Minutes. If you haven’t heard of “mindfulness”, you will soon. Read more to be in the know so you don’t get caught at a party, or at your job, with a silly look on your face saying, “What’s that?”

As Cooper says in the opening, mindfulness helps us get around the stresses of daily life. It means, “being aware of your thoughts, physical sensations, and surroundings”, as he puts it. This may sound trivial until you look carefully to the sentence. Most people are completely unaware of their thoughts, their true present-moment sensations (not just pains or emotions), and what is really happening in the present moment.

Cooper was very skeptical going in. He had a profound experience and said it has changed his life.

13-minute 60 Minutes video (watch in browser):

To put it simply, your mind and body are in this present moment, rather than lost somewhere else in distraction. The most common distraction being the incessant running commentary of thinking or problem solving. Why is that important? You can only ACT in the present moment. You cannot act in the story in the head, being lost in the past, future, or projections of the mind. That’s like trying to take action in a dream. Indeed, many people are stuck in their own dream rather than participating in this moment.

There are also three additional short video segments on the CBS site to view: http://www.cbsnews.com/news/mindfulness-anderson-cooper-60-minutes/

There are literally thousands of forms of meditation. What gives mindfulness the edge is that it’s been scientifically proven in countless studies over 40 years to eliminate depression, anxiety, and stress. Even medications typically just mask symptoms, create side effects, but still don’t eliminate the problem. Mindfulness is being taught at Google and other cutting-edge profitable corporations as well as taught in hospitals to cancer patients.

Mindfulness is something we can see at the highest levels of peak performance as well. Watch the Seattle Seahawks play football and you notice they’re a different kind of team. Pete Carroll, the head coach, has created a training system that has the players be mindful in the chaos of a big game.

If it works for all these people, maybe it will work for you to create a little more peace in your busy day? You are worth trying it out for yourself!